What is Breastfeeding Aversion?
Breastfeeding aversion is an unexpected, often distressing, feeling of irritation, anger, or anxiety that some mothers experience while breastfeeding/pumping. This aversion can range from mild discomfort to intense emotional reactions, making the act of nursing/pumping challenging and stressful.
It's important to note that experiencing aversion does not mean a mother doesn't love her child or isn't committed to breastfeeding; it’s a complex emotional response that can be influenced by various factors.
When Can Breastfeeding Aversion Start?
Breastfeeding aversion can begin at any point during the breastfeeding journey. Some mothers may experience it early on, while others might encounter it later, even after months of smooth breastfeeding. Key periods when aversion might start include:
During Hormonal Changes: Postpartum hormonal shifts can trigger aversion. This is particularly common around the time of ovulation or menstruation.
During Pregnancy: Mothers who are breastfeeding while pregnant might experience aversion due to hormonal changes and increased nipple sensitivity.
Tandem Nursing: Mothers nursing an older child while also breastfeeding a newborn may experience aversion, particularly towards the older child.
Weaning Periods: When a child is naturally reducing breastfeeding sessions, mothers might find certain nursing sessions triggering aversion.
How to Cope with Breastfeeding Aversion
Coping with breastfeeding aversion involves both practical strategies and emotional support. Here are some approaches to help manage and alleviate aversion:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
Recognize that aversion is a common experience among mothers and that it's okay that you feel this way. Think about other mammals who you've seen nurse their young. When the mother is tired of nursing they bat at or push their young away, we are mammals. More moms struggle with this than most people know about or talk about. Talking about your feelings with a supportive partner, friend, or a lactation consultant can provide relief and understanding.
2. Self-Care and Mindfulness
Engage in activities that help you relax and reduce stress. Practices such as deep breathing, meditation, and mindfulness can help manage the emotional responses associated with aversion.
3. Adjust Nursing Positions
Experiment with different breastfeeding positions to find one that minimizes discomfort. Some mothers find that changing positions can reduce the intensity of aversion.
4. Set Boundaries
If you’re experiencing aversion while tandem nursing, consider setting boundaries with the older child. Limiting nursing sessions or creating a schedule can help manage feelings of overwhelm.
5. Distraction Techniques
Engage in activities that distract your mind during nursing sessions. Listening to music, watching TV, or reading can shift your focus and make the experience more bearable.
6. Seek Professional Support
Consult a lactation consultant, support groups specifically for this, and a therapist specializing in postpartum issues if possible. Professional guidance can offer personalized strategies and emotional support to navigate aversion.
7. Gradual Weaning
If aversion becomes too overwhelming, consider gradual weaning. Reducing breastfeeding sessions slowly can help both you and your child adjust to the change without abrupt disruption.
8. Alternative Feeding Methods
It's important to remember that your mental and emotional well-being is crucial for both you and your baby. If breastfeeding aversion significantly impacts your health, it’s perfectly okay to switch to pumping or even formula feeding. Choosing an alternative feeding method can alleviate stress and ensure your baby still receives the nutrition they need while also protecting you. Your value as a mother is not determined by how you feed your child!
Conclusion
Breastfeeding aversion is a complex and often challenging experience that affects many mothers. Understanding that it’s a common phenomenon and seeking support can make a significant difference. By acknowledging your feelings, practicing self-care, and exploring coping strategies, you can find a balance that supports both your well-being and your breastfeeding journey. Remember, every breastfeeding journey is unique, and it's important to prioritize your emotional and physical health along the way. The Jacksonville Baby Company provides one-on-one support to new parents and breastfeeding aversion is one thing we can help you navigate in whatever way that's best for you!
Authored by Elizabeth Luke
Elizabeth is the founder and CEO of The Jacksonville Baby Company. Elizabeth and her husband and best friend, Richard are parents to four children. With certifications in Postpartum and Infant Care Support, Childbirth and Newborn Care Education, Lactation Support, and Infant Sleep, Elizabeth is a wealth of knowledge and has a heart for helping parents live their best lives while also ensuring their children are safe, happy, and leading their healthiest lives possible! Contact us today for day, night, and live-in support!
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